Dating a senior
In the 1997 film “As Good as It Gets,” Melvin Udall (played by Jack Nicholson) gave every woman thinking about dating senior men pause to reconsider.
Melvin embodied every unfortunate stereotype about older men: He was a cranky, opinionated, sexist, “my way or the highway,” alpha male kind of guy—who somehow stumbled into a romantic relationship with the waitress at his favorite Manhattan diner.
Every upperclassman can look back to their early college years and find moments to shake their heads at. “When you find someone you’re interested in then go for it.
But if the maturity is there, does it really matter if they were in high school less than a year ago? I wouldn’t say there isn’t a limit, I think some age differences are too big, but a freshmen and a senior doesn’t seem too bad.” My brother is 22 years old and his boyfriend is 10 years older than him.
Their expectations of women—and of themselves, for that matter—are often rooted in a relationship model that, for better or worse, has changed dramatically.
A previous marriage may have acted as a kind of time capsule for many senior men, insulating them from social changes. That doesn’t mean you are stuck with no option but to put on June Cleaver’s apron.
Granted, Melvin was an extreme specimen, since he had also been diagnosed with obsessive/compulsive disorder.
For years, maybe even decades, he measured his identity by the roles he played in his previous marriage.
They say you don't know a man till you live with him.
I say, spend an hour and a half on the phone with one. Affairs columns However, the dating site continued to send me profiles, and there was someone I wanted to meet and I signed up again.
“There is, in fact, very little data on the sexual interests and experiences of older people,” Friedan says.
People want to believe that seniors are asexual beings, but seniors desire — even need — romantic relationships, just as we do.